Extract from NLP: The Essential Guide to Neuro-Linguistic Programming
Day 3: Making Your Dreads Into Dreams
Look again at your prioritized list for what you Don’t Want & Have. If this is one of your longer lists, today’s activity will be even more important for you.
When someone has a well-developed away from motivation direction, they naturally pay a lot more attention to what they don’t like and don’t want. While this is motivating, they ultimately won’t experience much satisfaction. As they get farther away from what they don’t like, they get relief and less stress, but not excitement, satisfaction, or achievement. To experience a sense of fulfillment an away-from person needs a orientation of attention. They can tremendously benefit by redirecting attention from what is not wanted to what is wanted. This activity, using the items you already listed, will help you explore redirecting your attention from what you don’t want to what you do want.
Copy items from your newly prioritized Don’t Want & Have list on the chart below.
Next, take each item you Don’t Want & Have and think of a positive phrase that means the same thing to you, but is something you Don’t Have & Want. For example: If you Don’t Want & Have a few extra pounds, what you probably Don’t Have & Want is a slimmer, more muscular body. If you Don’t Want & Have a dead-end job, then you Don’t Have & Want work with more opportunities. Create a transformation for every Don’t Want and Have into a new Don’t Have & Want that is satisfying to you.
Write down each transformation for future reference.
Dreads Into Dreams Transformation Worksheet
Column 1 – Don’t Want and Don’t Have e.g. a few extra pounds
Transformed into…
Column 2 – Don’t Have and Want e.g. a slimmer, more muscular body
Reprinted, with permission, from the new Harper Morrow book NLP: The Essential Guide to Neuro-Linguistic Programming
