We’re three weeks into the new year and by now you’ve probably failed at all your fantastic resolutions. Good. Because now we can focus on doing the things that really excite us, instead of chasing the things we think we ought to do
Paula from Mindnode has some great advice on making 2018 more like your best year:
We need to take apart this pain point until it is crushed into dust. A dust so fine that taking a piece of it seems ridiculously easy, like full on, belly-laughing, ridiculously easy.
Will you finally take action?
Michael Lukiman has an interesting suggestion on Quora:
I’m a neuroscience major, and this is what I think is the most simple, effective heuristic.
Go for what you don’t want.
Go for what you don’t want. Constantly. No excuses. Keep reading, if you’re disciplined enough. It may be what you’re looking for.
Read the whole thing
When you do not know what you want, you cannot easily differentiate between the work you need to do and work which you don’t need to do. You end up doing more work than you need to and, as pointed out earlier, you allow yourself insufficient time to recover from your efforts. This will eventually lead to stress and the negative health consequences associated with it.
Coaching Positive Performance
The Problem With Goals
You wouldn’t know it from browsing the self-help aisle of your local bookstore, but scientists are beginning to question whether focusing too much on goals runs counter to long-term performance and general well-being. In a Harvard Business School report titled “Goals Gone Wild: The Systematic Side Effects of Over-Prescribing Goal Setting,” a team of researchers from Harvard, Northwestern, and the University of Pennsylvania set out to explore the potential downfalls of goal-setting. They found that overemphasizing goals — and especially those that are based on measurable outcomes — often leads to reduced intrinsic motivation, irrational risk-taking, and unethical behavior.
What Olympians Can Show Us About Setting Big Goals
If you want to master multiple habits and stick to them for good, then you need to figure out how to be consistent. How can you do that?
Well, here is one of the most robust findings from psychology research on how to actually follow through on your goals:
The scientific argument for mastering one thing at a time
When a woman is packing for a trip, she may throw in “this little frock, which can go anywhere.” Likewise, when a man is packing for a trip, he may throw in a dark blue blazer, again because “it can go anywhere.”
This idea, that you have something which could fit into a number of different situations, is probably the best introduction possible to the concept of “transferable skills.”
Briefly stated, this concept holds that your basic skills – whether they be “organizing,” or “analyzing,” or “writing,” or “teaching,” or “planning” – are like that frock or blazer: they can go anywhere.
Therefore, you have to decide where you’d be happiest employing your transferable skills, because – believe me – where you’d be happiest is also where you’d be most effective.
This is called “picking a field.” Sounds easy. But I have learned over the past forty plus years that there is no subject where job-hunters and career-changers bog down more, than in figuring out their favorite field; so let me try to cut through the thicket by offering you ten ways to approach this.
The Two Minute Crash Course on How To Pick A Field